Abstract

Behind every "tantrum" lies a reasoning so purest it will move you to tears.

This is not a book about how to raise a child or which parenting methods unlock a child's potential.
Instead, it is a guide to seeing and understanding the world through your child's eyes.

Targeted at parents of children from around age two through the early primary school years, this book encourages caregivers to notice how their children perceive, feel, and think about the world, and helps them reflect on how to respond as parents.

・They can't put their feelings into words.
・They struggle to express what is on their mind.

Even though children at this stage have their own rich inner worlds and deep emotions, many suffer from the frustration of being unable to communicate them clearly. Parenting focused solely on "correct answers" set by adults—even if socially acceptable—often leaves children feeling as though their true emotions are being ignored. Regrettably, these well-intentioned actions by parents can sometimes leave lasting scars on precious parent-child relationships.

Every child is unique, and with ten different children come ten different ways to parent.
Yet one truth remains consistent: the single most vital element is a parent's genuine desire to truly know the child right in front of them.

By using relatable, concrete scenarios and everyday examples, this book guides parents on how to empathize with their child's feelings, look at the world from their eye level, and respond in a way that builds lasting trust.

[Table of Contents]
Chapter 1: Decoding a Child's Unspoken "Screams"
Chapter 2: Children Who Live Entirely in "the Present Moment"
Chapter 3: Understanding "Self" and "Others" Through a Child's Eyes
Chapter 4: Children Have Their Own Unique Bodily Sensations
Chapter 5: Cherishing the Child in Front of You Today Over the Child of the Future

Author’s Information

Clinical Psychologist / Certified Psychologist

She has worked for over 15 years in medical institutions, including psychiatric hospitals and pediatrics. Through psychological testing and interviews, she avoids evaluating children based solely on visible behavior; instead, she traces its underlying causes to capture unvoiced feelings and struggles, building a deep perspective for understanding children and their families.

Driven by a desire to support children and families closer to their daily lives, she currently provides consultations on child development and parenting. She values the perspective that "behind troubling behavior lies a child's own valid reason and unspoken feelings." Rather than rushing to change a child's behavior, she focuses on identifying necessary support and environments based on the world through the child's eyes and experiences. She prioritizes working alongside families to create supportive environments and relationships, ensuring they do not feel isolated within their communities.